She started the post off with the assumptions that people have about stay-at-home moms (or SAHMs as she calls them).
“☝️ everyone thinks being a stay at home mom full time is easy.
— that we are lucky to be able to not have to work.
— that we are lazy.
— that it’s not “real” work so we have nothing to complain about.
All photos were used with the explicit permission of Bridgette Anne
What people might not know is that it’s both a lonely time as well as a time where you never really get time to yourself. Bridgette writes that you can’t sit by yourself and have a cup of coffee without your child clamoring for your attention.
Bridgette admitted that when she wants to talk to someone, she only has her boyfriend, whom. she is afraid she ‘burdens’ with her emotions and problems.
She then went on to speak to apost.com about her post and the response she’s gotten:
“If I’m being 100 percent honest, there really wasn’t any process to making my post. I just realized I was crying and overwhelmed, and I really didn’t have anyone to call. I felt alone and guilty for feeling the way I did, and I guess I just wanted some validation that it’s normal to feel like that some days.”
“The feedback within my personal life has been overwhelmingly positive! I have had people who I have lost touch with reach out, and I have found a place of balance and a local support system again.”
“You struggle to come up with ways to entertain someone for literally 12 hours a day every day. You wear the same clothes that smell like sweat and tears for days.”
Bridget admitted that although she has judged SAHMs in the past, she is humbled by her own experience. She said, “…I get it now. The people who said they’d be there to help are almost gone, and you still have that overwhelming sense of failure.”
After her own experience, Bridget gives some advice to all her SAHM colleagues there. “We will find the best and the worst moments of your life during these years.
Your emotions and limits will be tested in ways you never imagined, but your heart, patience, and compassion will grow beyond your unbridled faith. But when those bad days come – those really bad days, don’t be afraid to talk about it!! ”
“For any soon to be or future parents; don’t let this message scare you— but let it prepare you for the fact that you will have days like this one. Everyone talks about all the good times, the fun moments; but don’t be afraid to ask your parents, your parent friends, grandparents— about the bad times; the times they screamed in the bathroom, and just don’t be afraid to prepare yourself to the non traditional moments people don’t usually talk about!”
Read Bridgette’s entire Facebook post by clicking here.
After reading Bridget’s emotional message, now might be a good time to do what she suggests and save the stay-at-home mom in your life.
As she says, “Check your SAHM friends…we’re not okay.” Let us know what you think of Bridget’s post and pass this article on to stay-at-home moms you might relate to.
